On Why Our "Friends" Don't Support Us


Yes, I am going there. But I'm keeping it short and sweet!

Now, I know we always see comments about this on social media. We see the memes and jokes, but we also witness this kind of thing with our own eyes; in real life. We witness the way in which people begin to move wild when we start achieving greatness.

Why is it that we have people in our lives who don't support us when we do great things? I often ask myself how this is even possible; and to be honest... I don't know the answer. The end.

I'm joking lol. But in all seriousness, how? 

Speaking from my own perspective, I'm the kind of person who loves to see people winning at life. I don't even need to know you. If I see you achieving things, no matter how big or small; I am genuinely happy for you. You'll see me on Twitter or Instagram all up on people's posts with emojis, liking or retweeting their greatness. So obviously when it comes to my friends, I am their biggest hype woman!! How can I not be? Even if this greatness I am speaking of is something as simple as them slaying an outfit; I am there! So when it comes to their achievements, I can't even imagine not being on the sidelines cheering them on with my pom poms; because I will always be as proud of them as I would be for myself. And that's the truth.

Now, life has taught me that we can't always judge others according to what we would do, because everyone is different. However! If you're supposed to be my "friend" and I see you witnessing my accomplishments and pretending you haven't seen, then I'm judging you! #SorryNotSorry. Remember people, there's no hiding place (especially on social media). We see you watching the greatness! 

If you tell a "friend" about something you're proud of and the reception you get is anything other than joy, they're not your friend. If you're starting a business or sharing your work and your "friends" are just scrolling on by, they're not your friends. And more importantly, if your "friends" are unable to simply tell you that they are proud of you, THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIEND! It's really that simple; and I just had to shout to make sure everyone at the back can hear me. You don't need to ask your real friends for their support, because it comes naturally. Real friends want to see you win and they don't hold back on letting you know that they are proud of you.

We are all at different stages of our lives and everyone is achieving different things at different rates, and that's fine. I also know that social media can sometimes be hard whilst we're navigating through life. As they say, "comparison is the thief of joy." However, nothing anyone else is doing should stop us from doing what we need to do; and it definitely shouldn't stop us from celebrating the achievements of others, let alone the people closest to us.

With that being said, for every "friend" who isn't happy for your success or doesn't support you, I can guarantee that there will be even more support from people that you least expect it from. This is where your attention should be redirected, because those little acts of kindness deserve all the gratitude. And remember, if no one is clapping for you, clap for your own damn self because you are doing great and you are amazing!

If you've done something that you're proud of, or you're just doing your best during a hard time, comment below so I can celebrate you! x



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  1. Love this! What i find special about your posts is just how authentic and real they are, keep sharing and keep inspiring. Love, your biggest fan every step of the way! ❤

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    1. Aww thank you Mimi ❤ I really appreciate you and I want you to know that you make me proud xxx

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  2. I love this post and I love you Roschy!! You know you inspire me in more ways than you can imagine and I’m so proud of you that your sharing your voice and inspiring others too xx 😘

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    1. I love and appreciate you so much, my Reeree! 😘😘 xx

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  3. I mean..... To be honest!
    I don't even know what to say except for YOU ARE AMAZING!
    Keep doing what you're doing and don't let ANYONE dim your light.

    Ohemaa xx

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    1. Thank you my babes 😭 You are amazing too! I'm excited for all of the great things we are achieving and are yet to achieve! Xx

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  4. So true - you’ve articulated this so well ���� xxx Kat

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  5. This is a great post! So real. I especially like the line 'if no one is clapping for you, clap for your own damn self'. I've also learnt that sometimes we have to celebrate our own successes and not rely on anyone to share that energy. Keep up the good work, these posts inspire me in so many ways xx

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    1. Reeds! Thank you. I'm so glad that you enjoy them 💕 I appreciate you so much xx

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  6. What a great post! So true. Not every 'friend' has the same heart and good to identify who is drilling holes in the friendship boat while the rest of the friends are rowing in the boat. Totally agree real friends should be able to tell each other how proud they are of them and just as importantly the other friend to feel that this is the truth and not just saying it or laughing or judging them. Guess sometimes we do have to clap for our own damn self. I've been reading a few of your posts and grateful to the friends how have introduced me to them as I really enjoy reading them and find them uplifting too. I absolutely love the way you write and put the message across and how it his home on so many levels. Thank you for sharing the wisdom and positive energy- keep doing what you do.

    Rina x

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    1. Thank you so much, Rina! I really appreciate your kind words and I'm glad that you're able to take something positive from these posts �� It means a lot to me xx

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